20 August 2016
A reader asks:
RQ: In respect to gender orientation could the Committee comment on the fact that more incoming souls are now requesting a complete gender change once here. It was my understanding that gender is set before return and I would have expected this aspect to be clarified fully in their "life plan". This appears to be an extension of homosexuality in all forms.
The Committee jumped in with several aspects upon which they believe it informative to comment, so I have made a separate entry to expand on them.
C: Several subjects are involved in this question, we list them then explain. Sexual orientation, time, simultaneous lives and constant existence.
Q: Is gender indeed chosen before incarnation?
C: Yes, because humans cannot be two genders simultaneously. This does not mean the soul is limited to sole awareness of one gender, the chosen one. Many lifetimes are followed as the other; in other words, many humans have experienced other lives as the opposite gender.
Q: What about sexual orientation?
C: This can be for the opposite gender, the same or both. What humans identify as hetero-, homo- or bisexuality.
Q: Does a soul choose one of these three?
C: Yes, and a soul can choose to alter these preferences, as life evolves. This is not common; the great majority of humans select one preference and remain with it throughout life.
Q: The common notion is that a person is born with the orientation which shall remain in effect throughout the life in question.
C: Yes, a human is born as either male or female, although there are genetic variations, as human study has revealed.
Q: What does time have to do with it?
C: Time among humans is a great tool; it is one of the aspects of a human life journeyed across Earth that most attracts a soul. Time's passage allows development, review and planning. These provide hope. As time relates to gender and preference, it allows for modifications in the few choosing it.
Q: Why are most humans heterosexual and remain that way throughout life?
C: Reproduction, family formation and social organization are better accomplished through structure. Since human physical reproduction requires a coupling of chromosomes, humans choosing parenthood through pregnancy and childbirth best achieve it this way.
Q: Makes sense; if fertility rates fell below the 2.1 babies per female, human population would shrink.
C: Yes. This is the reason. The training of a child into adulthood also benefits best from a solid family and more, as compared to less, adult interaction. As humans know very well.
Q: OK, let’s turn to the main reader question; why then are more souls requesting or attempting to change orientation?
C: Awareness of the possibility, which has grown out of advances in medical science.
Q: Have there always been humans who felt constricted or trapped in a body, preferring the opposite gender?
Q: Is it more common for a male to prefer a female role, or female to male?
C: The occurrence of both are similar; there are as many females who might prefer a male identity, as male to female.
Q: What do these have to do with homosexuality?
C: They do not correlate to causation; the majority of humans considered homosexual, who prefer intimate relationships with a person of the same gender, are satisfied with their own physical condition and feel no urge to alter it. They simply prefer their same gender for these interpersonal relations, and accept who they are, physically.
Q: Is bisexuality an extension of homosexuality? Many human heterosexuals believe bisexuality is a subset or form of homosexuality.
C: No. There is no absolute rule, from the viewpoint of your soul, that divides gender identity into two stark alternatives. Because the majority of humanity is hetero-, it is easy to see this grouping and to apply insider labeling to the larger group.
Q: Why has human history been so full of resistance to homo- or bisexuality; for example religious prohibitions, condemnations and so forth?
C: The absence of knowledge regarding human reproduction. It was understood that abstinence did not result in pregnancy, and that coupling would. The idea that sexual intercourse existed for producing children was an easy conclusion; to engage in behavior that would not produce children, was seen as counterproductive. Great emotion and pain attaches to the notion of sexual fidelity, because great emotion attaches to the behavior.
Q: It seems that significant social acceptance has only occurred in these most recent few decades; why?
C: Ease of communication.
Q: It seems to be a bit of a contradiction that marriage has declined in both popularity and duration, along with an increase in the frequency of marriages among heterosexuals, just as there has been a rise in popularity and acceptance of homosexual marriage. Why?
C: Marriage is a social convention; homosexuals seek the acceptance perceived as denied. Soon humans will see that not much will change; the large majority of mankind will be heterosexual, the small minority homosexual and bisexuality will continue to occur. The change to the social arrangement of marriage will not be changed materially, because of these proportions.
Q: Why do homosexuals not react negatively to heterosexuality, but the opposite is frequent?
C: Social training. Human sensitivity to public nudity is another example, because physical intimacy of many forms is learned to be concealed. Bodily functions such as eating are accepted and encouraged to be done openly, while urination and defecation are not. These are other examples of human behavior.
Q: Many humans would argue that "using the bathroom" is a hygiene issue; public health is improved.
C: Yes, however concealment of the activity is not necessary to achieve objectives of controlling bacteria growth. Consider young children, who have little or no social resistance to nudity or elimination of waste materials from the body.
Q: Is the desire for a change in gender going to increase or abate, as time goes on?
C: This decision is not yet made, over the shorter term as humans would describe it. We say with certainty, there will be a leveling off of the desires and attempts to do so, as human societies grow accustomed to examples of individual humans frustrated with their chosen gender, after incarnating and having the opportunity to experience it as an adult.
Q: I can only imagine what it feels like to be one and long to be the other, and the frustration it creates. Are these circumstances life plan decisions?
Q: I understand there will be a leveling off, but what about the intense feelings of wanting to become a male or a female, when a person is the opposite? Will or can that be improved?
C: To a degree, yes. Acceptance is the way. To suggest tolerance is currently a popular notion in many human societies, yet to say one tolerates another is not a positive attribute. To tolerate simply means not object or resist what is still not preferred or is even disliked. The better way is to accept differences, even if one does not prefer them for oneself.
When humans become more adept at acceptance of all social differences, be them gender, behavior, race, appearance, attractiveness or otherwise, the sensations of frustration with any one person's sense of self, of rejection or non-acceptance because of it, will reduce. There will always be incidents and examples, just as there are occurrences of undesired behavior with all things humans do. Car accidents, drug overdoses, misuse and improper consumption of types & amounts of food and many other things. All human behaviors will always contain examples of detrimental behavior.
Q: Esteemed Committee, thank you.
C: An honor to respond; be well.